I love this post and the way your friendliness and self confidence and self love shines through it! It has me reflecting on my own journey and I was inspired to share something I have learned from the process of loving myself again.
When I started loving and respecting myself again I started to show up authentically as myself and from there I connected with people who saw me. And not the version of myself I wanted them to see because I wanted their approval... my ACTUAL self.
So when I not only gained their approval but their friendship it made me realize just how much I needed authentic friendships and connections in my life and more importantly, the fact that I DIDN'T have that.
It's amazing how choosing yourself betters your relationship with yourself and everyone else around you!
Like I spent my entire life hiding myself in the shadows of my decisions and now I have finally found her, pulled her out of hiding, and allowing her the freedom to shine!
In my divorce days, I realized that I had spent the better part of 10 years choosing him over choosing myself. I didn't know how to choose myself anymore. I didn't even know what I wanted because I was so used to putting his needs and desires and preferences before my own. this went on for over a decade, so when I went through divorce, the people I loved didn't know how to relate to me without him. They too were so used to me putting his choices before my own that they didn't know how to help me figure out what my choices were.
It's a journey. a sometimes very difficult one. through divorce, I had to re-member myself, and all my parts were different, with different insertion sockets than they had before. The people around me couldn't go 'back' to what we were and together we all struggled to go forward without knowing what forward looked like. I did it though. and those who really mattered found new ways to relate to the new me. It took another decade. and I am so glad it all happened because now I know how to choose me AND have a healthy relationship.
I love this post and the way your friendliness and self confidence and self love shines through it! It has me reflecting on my own journey and I was inspired to share something I have learned from the process of loving myself again.
When I started loving and respecting myself again I started to show up authentically as myself and from there I connected with people who saw me. And not the version of myself I wanted them to see because I wanted their approval... my ACTUAL self.
So when I not only gained their approval but their friendship it made me realize just how much I needed authentic friendships and connections in my life and more importantly, the fact that I DIDN'T have that.
It's amazing how choosing yourself betters your relationship with yourself and everyone else around you!
Thank you for your kind words! I also love your reflection — it must feel like being in your own skin again 🤍
Yes EXACTLY!
Like I spent my entire life hiding myself in the shadows of my decisions and now I have finally found her, pulled her out of hiding, and allowing her the freedom to shine!
Amazing ✨
Nice piece on the human dilemma and maybe contradiction of independence Vs the need for connection
In my divorce days, I realized that I had spent the better part of 10 years choosing him over choosing myself. I didn't know how to choose myself anymore. I didn't even know what I wanted because I was so used to putting his needs and desires and preferences before my own. this went on for over a decade, so when I went through divorce, the people I loved didn't know how to relate to me without him. They too were so used to me putting his choices before my own that they didn't know how to help me figure out what my choices were.
It's a journey. a sometimes very difficult one. through divorce, I had to re-member myself, and all my parts were different, with different insertion sockets than they had before. The people around me couldn't go 'back' to what we were and together we all struggled to go forward without knowing what forward looked like. I did it though. and those who really mattered found new ways to relate to the new me. It took another decade. and I am so glad it all happened because now I know how to choose me AND have a healthy relationship.
Wow, what a courageous journey you went on🤍 so powerful